Archive for June, 2013

How to Become a Caregiver Coach in Westchester County

Friday, June 28th, 2013

Westchester County has introduced a new initiative to train volunteers to become caregiver coaches. This is a unique way to volunteer your time to help local families and contribute to an innovative community project.

Few people are prepared to become caregivers to a disabled or elderly loved one, and people who are thrust into the role of caregiver often feel overwhelmed. A caregiver coach is someone who is trained by professionals to give individual support to family caregivers. This support can be essential to helping caregivers understand their responsibilities and make informed decisions.

The Livable Communities Caregiver Coaching (L3C) Program is an initiative of Westchester County’s Department of Senior Programs and Services. The program aims to form a corps of volunteers who have been trained in caregiver coaching skills and can provide services to family caregivers. The initiative is part of an overall goal of supporting seniors in living with dignity and independence in their own homes.

Westchester’s caregiver coaching program is the most comprehensive in the nation, which is appropriate for the county with the fastest-growing population of seniors in the country. Today one in five Westchester residents is age 60 or older, and the majority of these seniors have a disability of some kind. It is estimated by the Westchester planning department that by 2030, people over the age of 60 will represent 25 percent of the county’s population.

Anyone may volunteer to be a caregiver coach. Experience as a caregiver is helpful but not necessary. The ideal caregiver coach is an empathetic, nonjudgmental person who wishes to help others. Volunteers will receive approximately 12 hours of training spread over three weekly sessions. A one-year commitment is required. Coaches will also participate in a monthly conversation where challenges and information will be shared about caregiver coaching experiences. Coaches will learn about the aging process and the responsibilities that caregivers face, as well as how to convey factual information clearly. As caregiver coaches, volunteers will share information and listen to caregivers’ concerns, while refraining from offering legal or medical advice.

If you are interested in volunteering to become a caregiver coach, contact the Department of Senior Programs and Services at 914-813-6441 or visit their website: http://seniorcitizens.westchestergov.com/caregiver-coaching/

 

 

Mobile Lifestyle Can Have A Legal Impact

Monday, June 17th, 2013

By Bernard A. Krooks, Esq.

Many New Yorkers have embraced a decidedly mobile lifestyle. They think nothing of seasonal migrations in search of temperate weather. Their families may be far-flung, prompting frequent out-of-state visits or they may be trying out a potential retirement spot. We account for the highest percentage of Florida’s temporary residents, often opting to call it home.

But while it’s simple to buy a plane ticket and have the mail forwarded, legal documents don’t always cross state lines so easily. Differences in state law can have big implications for estate planning and long-term care. In some cases, one jurisdiction may not even recognize documents drafted elsewhere due to differences in execution requirements. And you could face unexpected tax bills as governments struggle to fill their depleted coffers.

Generally speaking, spending 183 or more days per year in a location will make you subject to local residency requirements. If you maintain your legal residence in one state for purposes of voting and taxation, but spend significant time elsewhere, it pays to do some contingency planning.

At a minimum, you should discuss your residency situation when you meet with your attorney to review your will, trusts and other important estate planning instruments. It may be wise to consult an attorney in each state to ensure that you’re in compliance with all regulations and that you take full advantage of any favorable differences. I’ve had an increasing number of clients ask about the benefits of having attorneys collaborate across jurisdictions. Parents had begun spending more time in Florida, or due to frailty, were moving back to New York to be closer to family, and they didn’t want to suddenly discover that careful estate planning had been rendered invalid.

While a well-drafted trust can stipulate that it be administered according to the laws of the originating state, it may not be advisable to have one state interpret the statutes of another. Other documents may prove even more challenging. An advance directive can become entangled by something as seemingly trivial as the number of witnesses to your signature. As a result, doctors and hospitals may fail to respect living wills or health care proxies. Banks may not recognize financial powers of attorney. The result could be chaos when you’re least prepared to cope.

Probate, the procedure through which property is transferred to heirs, poses more questions. This process typically takes place where the decedent was domiciled, but if real estate is owned in more than one state, probate must be initiated in each location, possibly involving different deadlines. Even if the decedent was legally resident elsewhere, states have been known to claim estate taxes when local ties were extensive enough.

Over 70 percent of New York nursing home expenses end up being covered by Medicaid, but eligibility and covered services vary by state. So it pays to understand how to navigate the system where ever you or your parents plan to spend your senior years. In addition, there’s growing interest in “filial responsibility” loans, under which adult offspring could be held accountable for the older generation’s expenses. So if Mom or Dad suddenly requires nursing home care that isn’t covered by Medicaid-even for a few months- a son or a daughter could suddenly become liable for huge bills. While New York does not currently hold adult children liable for their parents’ nursing home costs, in a recent case in Pennsylvania, a court held an adult son responsible for his mom’s nursing home expenses.

Since Florida has no state income tax, it could be tempting to declare yourself a resident if you pass the 183-day test, but New York is particularly aggressive about claiming taxes from individuals with connections here. You need to take steps to relinquish your New York residency, including the divestiture of real estate holdings. New York residency audits are on the increase, and you’ll bear the burden of proof, including documentation of how long you’ve spent where. Failure to present a compelling case could leave you responsible for state taxes.

Don’t let legal snarls complicate your chosen lifestyle. A second home and carefree travel are often the fruit of a lifetime’s effort. With a little research and planning, you can avoid untimely complications.

 

For more information, visit www.elderlawnewyork.com.

Planinng for Life’s Unexpected Twists and Turns

Tuesday, June 4th, 2013

By Susan Yubas, Director of Business Development at The Bristal Assisted Living, Certified Senior Advisor, Founder of FYI Senior Living Solutions, Inc.

Most of us do not get around to having that all important conversation with loved ones, and if we do, it is at the worst possible time and under the most stressful conditions.

An acquaintance of mine in her early forties was recently hospitalized following an automobile accident in which there was no other car involved.  An otherwise healthy, active woman who was not texting or talking on her cell phone while driving, her husband and I waited to hear what could have been the cause.  Did she have a stroke, a seizure, a heart attack?

As we sat together, he asked “What if she doesn’t pull through?  Or has physical or cognitive issues?  What if she can’t go back to work? Can we afford to live on one income, especially if she needs help? We never talked about this.  We never talked about the “what if’s.” I don’t know what she would want me to do or what would be best!”

In my practice, I primarily work with older adults and their families as they prepare for and deal with the life transitions that happen with aging.  But, the reality is that planning is not age related.  Denial is just so convenient.   We have all the time in the world to “get to it” and we’re young and healthy.  We may get old, but will never be “elderly.”  If we are, there will always be someone around who knows what our wishes are. They will have our best interests in mind.   That person will also be able and willing to implement and execute whatever needs to be done and, of course, there will be enough money to pay for it all.

Or, we made a plan a long time ago and haven’t updated it due to “benign neglect.“ Since then, we’ve moved to another state with different regulations.  We’re no longer friendly with the person we named as Executor in our Will.  Documents may not be titled properly so that our wishes can be granted.  Then, a crisis happens, and you receive that call about a parent who has had a fall, a stroke, or an accident, and life will not be the same.

Several months ago, I met with a couple in their early 70’s at the request of their son who lived out of town.  He couldn’t get his parents to talk to him about their wishes and plans for the future, which they insisted, were all taken care of.  In the course of our conversation, I learned that they had, in fact, made plans for retirement long ago.  Since then, their circumstances had changed significantly,   but they had made no changes in their initial plan.  They were in good health and enjoyed an active, independent life.

Shortly after our initial meeting, the husband started to have problems with his eyesight.   The wife slipped on the stairs, fractured her hip and only wanted to recover at home.  Neither of them could continue to run the business they had built.  Previously capable parents were suddenly not able to think clearly due to the stress of the situation.  The children were angry at their parents for not thinking about how they would take care of each other or for what would happen to their business if they could no longer work.  They argued over what would be the best for their parents and who would be the child responsible for coordinating their care and transition to what would become their “new normal.”

Life does not always go as smoothly as we would hope.  However, when we take the time to plan in an organized and thoughtful manner, we can make difficult situations a little less difficult and hopefully avoid a crisis situation from occurring.

 

For more information, visit www.elderlawnewyork.com.